Monday, February 22, 2010

~10 Facebook Rules for Couples~

1 Don't spend more time on Facebook than you should. How much time is that? It depends on what your spouse says. Communicate with your spouse and ask them, "Am I spending too much time online?" You want to make sure your spouse is your #1 relationship, not your buddies on Facebook. Pursue your spouse more than you pursue online relationships. Don't Facebook during "couple" time.

2) Never hide things from your spouse on Facebook. Openness and honesty is the glue of your marriage. When you start hiding friendships, conversations, chat sessions and comments from your spouse, that is unhealthy. If you're not allowing your spouse to know what you're doing on Facebook or online, that's a sign that you're doing something you shouldn't be doing.

3) Share your Facebook password with your spouse. This includes every password from Facebook account to every email address. It's called trust and accountability. Knowing you or your spouse can open up the laptop at anytime and read anything or see any place you've gone, keeps spouses accountable. Don't hide things from your spouse. Make sure you regularly tell them, "You are welcome to see what I'm doing anytime."

4) Never befriend anyone of the opposite sex that your spouse is uncomfortable with. Think twice before befriending an old boyfriend or girlfriend. Simple communication with your spouse about this is best.

5) Defriend anyone who crosses normal boundaries. If someone is saying things, doing things or asking questions online that make you uncomfortable OR would make you uncomfortable in person, then that's not a good sign. Listen to the little voice in your head. If something tells you "this isn't right," then it's probably not. Never be ashamed or afraid to defriend someone that may have ulterior motives.

6) If you're married, PROUDLY set your Relationship Status" to married. I wish there was a "Happily Married" status or, for that matter, an "I'm madly in love with my incredible mate".

7) Post pictures of you and your spouse on your Facebook, or use a "couple" picture as your profile picture.

8) Don't be afraid to proclaim your love for your spouse on Facebook. Someone of the opposite sex won't question your love for your spouse if you occasionally brag on your spouse on your Facebook status. It's healthy to brag on your spouse, and occasionally doing it in public conveys your love for your spouse to the world. At the same time, NEVER use your status to complain about your spouse.....Not smart!

9) Think before you type. Don't make comments on statuses and pictures of other people that come across as suggestive.

10) No matter how many friends you have on Facebook, remember that your #1 friend should be your spouse. Strive to better that relationship on a daily basis. Work 1000 times harder to grow in your marriage relationship than you do at finding friends on Facebook. NEVER take your relationship with your spouse for granted. The last thing you want is 1000 Facebook friends, while the love between you and your best friend slowly dies out.

Sunday, February 21, 2010

~EXtra EXtra read all about it~

Cory Horton turns 30!

I can't believe that 17 yr old I knew is now 30! When did that time go by? ....

Thanks Cory for all you do to take good care of your family! The journey you've made thus far in your life should make you proud. I'm so grateful that your life was spared a few months ago in Cancun. I'm grateful for the love you and Jennifer have. Thank you for holding FHE, Family Prayer, serving in your ward and setting a good example for your children.

I don't know anyone else who likes to eat pickles, or anything else while taking a nice hot bath
or when he gets laughing really hard, goes into pantomime mode! I don't know anyone else except my sons who go completely nuts when BYU plays! Thanks for all the "fixing stuff" you
do for our family~~

Many many happy returns of this day!!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY ~ love ya

Sunday, February 14, 2010


Just got home from a great weekend road trip with my two oldest grandsons .... will share more later with pictures.............

But after talking with Jen & reading Cory's sweet post on her blog, my heart is just breaking. How I wish all of the faith and prayers going up for her could prevent this sadness. I know so many people love Jenny! She's a very special young woman to our family.

I'm your mom and you are my daughter, how I wish I could take this hurt from you. You know what I mean because you are a mom and you have a daughter.

I love you, honey.

Thursday, February 4, 2010

~A Day in the Life of a Mother~

Real Mothers don't eat quiche; They don't have time to make it.
Real Mothers know that their kitchen utensils Are probably in the sandbox.
Real Mothers often have sticky floors, Filthy ovens and happy kids.
Real Mothers know that dried play dough Doesn't come out of carpets.
Real Mothers don't want to know what The vacuum just sucked up...
Real Mothers sometimes ask 'Why me?'
And get their answer when a little Voice says, 'Because I love you best.'
Real Mothers know that a child's growth
Is not measured by height or years or grade....
It is marked by the progression of Mommy to Mom to Mother.....

The Images of Mother:
4 YEARS OF AGE - My Mommy can do anything!
8 YEARS OF AGE - My Mom knows a lot! A whole lot!
12 YEARS OF AGE - My Mother doesn’t know everything!
14 YEARS OF AGE - My Mother? She wouldn’t have a clue. .
16 YEARS OF AGE - Mother? She's so five minutes ago.
18 YEARS OF AGE - That old woman? She's way out of date!
25 YEARS OF AGE - Well, she might know a little bit about it!
35 YEARS OF AGE - Before we decide, let's get Mom's opinion.
45 YEARS OF AGE - Wonder what Mom would have thought about it?
65 YEARS OF AGE - Wish I could talk it over with Mom.

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure she carries, or the way she combs her hair.
The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, Because that is the doorway to her heart, The place where love resides.
The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, But true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul.

It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she Shows, and the beauty of a woman with passing years only grows!

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

~Ground Hog Day~

I know a lot of people didn't like the Bill Murray movie, Groundhog Day, but I loved it! He stayed until he got it right ~ just like we all are doing in our own lives, I think........

Every time I hear Sonny & Cher lament "I got you Babe"..........I start laughing, but really that is why we are here, trying to help each other right? ~ I got you Babe, ...I got your back....I got your blindside....!

Ok, book of the month is another re-read ( I promise I'll get a new book for March ) but this is a winner!!! Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis. My old copy is well marked in yellow highlighter. This read will be in pink~~ Here are just a few favorite quotes to wet your appetite:

"Everyone says forgiveness is a lovely idea, until they have something to forgive."

"When a man is getting better he understand more and more clearly the evil that is still left in him. When a man is getting worse he understands his own badness less and less."

"Love in this second sense - love as distinct from "being in love" - is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by (in Christian marriages) the grace which both partners ask, and receive, from God. They can have this love for each other at those moments when they do not like each other. "

"I am trying here to prevent anyone saying the really foolish thing that people often say about Him: "I'm ready to accept Jesus as a great moral teacher, but I don't accept His claim to be God." That is the one thing we must not say. A man who was merely a man and said the sort of things Jesus said, would not be a great moral teacher. He would either be a lunatic -on a level with the man who says he is a poached egg or else He would be the Devil of Hell. You must make your choice. Either this man was, and is, the Son of God: or else a madman or something worse. You can shut Him up for a fool, or spit at Him and kill Him as a demon; you can fall at His feet and call Him Lord and God. But let us not come with any patronizing nonsense about Him being a great human teacher. He has not left that open to us. He did not intend to."

"Good and evil both increase at compound interest. That is why the little decisions you and I make every day are of such infinite importance."

Just a sampling of this amazing author's insight. There are two men that I am excited to meet and talk to some day. The Apostle Paul of Tarsus and C. S. Lewis. I love they way they write and the use of words to express what is in their hearts.

Let's all read more during Punxsutawney Phil's six more weeks of winter prediction!